Divorced, separated family vacation tips

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Kids wait all year for summer vacation, but for divorced or separated families, summer vacations can become a complicated affair.  Parents not only have to work around each other’s schedules, but may also have to work around all the extracurricular school activities that take place each summer.  Planning in advance can help reduce stress and ensure that both children’s and parents’ needs are being met.

If families plan ahead it will also help with childcare issues.  Communication in a positive manner teaches children that their parents love them and respect them to put their needs first.

Those planning for this summer should follow some of these tips:

• Plan ahead. Make sure each parent has uninterrupted time with the children and coordinate your schedules to make sure dates don’t overlap.  Before making reservations or spending a lot of money on a vacation, clear the dates with the other parent.
• Remember other special summer events before planning, such as Father’s Day, special sports tournaments, youth camp, etc.  If a spouse always has the same two weeks off work during the summer, don’t schedule a vacation during that time.
• Make sure a parent has permission to take the children out of state, and get written permission when necessary.
• Make sure the necessary health and insurance forms are included when traveling with the children.  If a parent needs written permission for medical treatment for the children, be sure to pack it.
• Spend vacation time with the children without a boyfriend or girlfriend. Be with them all the time and save adult activities for when the children are with the other parent.

Finally, just relax.  Summertime can be a lazy time when you just hang out together doing things like picnics in the backyards, running through the sprinkler, or going for walks.  Children will remember the memories of being with parents long after they remember details of a fancy trip.